Breaking up a relationship is usually a time of high tension, stress, and often anger. It used to be that you could explain your partner’s behavior to your friends at the local pub or club, and that would be the end of it.
He usually stayed at the pub or club.
Today, however, social media with the phenomenon of Facebook, Instagram and Twitter have ensured that any ventilation using one of these vehicles is sure to “not stay in the pub.”
Even if you are angry, upset, and humiliated, you should avoid using social media to express your feelings at all costs.
You don’t just talk to your friends. You talk to the world.
There are several reasons why you should abstain.
You should know that any comments you make, especially those fueled by emotion, anger, and sometimes alcohol, may be used as evidence against you in future family court proceedings.
This could have a detrimental effect on you, especially when it comes to parenting issues involving your children.
Another negative influence of using social media is how an emotional or angry message can affect your children, immediate family, and close friends. It is almost guaranteed that these people and many more will read it eventually.
Anyone who is in the middle of a family law proceeding with their ex should certainly be very careful with what they post.
The Family Law Act prohibits the publication of any document that identifies a party or witness in a proceeding in family court.
Such publication constitutes a serious offense under the law.
It also includes any publication of the names of children subject to parenting proceedings.
Before the advent of Facebook, the publication ban applied mainly to newspapers and journalists.
With the rapid growth of social media lately, your Facebook updates can be an offense if they publicly identify those involved in a family court case.
The use of social media can create even bigger problems. A North Queensland Magistrate’s Court ruling found that a derogatory comment, posted by a man about his ex-wife on Facebook, amounted to libel.
The post, which called the wife a “thief, liar, madman of money” among other profanity, turned out to be a slander of the wife’s character.
Even though the message was deleted by the husband within 24 hours, the message was seen by mutual friends, and the husband was ordered to pay the wife $ 10,000.00 as compensation for the defamation. of his personality.
So, it’s important to think twice before posting something on social media, no matter how hurt, emotional, or angry you feel at the time.
Maybe on social media, as well as in life, we should live by the saying “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”.
Paula Phelan is a Certified Family Lawyer specializing in this area from the Queensland Law Society. She has been a lawyer for 26 years and is Director of Phelan Family Law, a Rockhampton law firm specializing in family law only.